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Monday, May 21, 2012

Today was terrific, if you like long swims in the ocean all by yourself...

This close to the race swimbikerun pretty much sums up what I've been up too, no need for further explanation.  Knowing that this is a spot many moms land in hopes of discovering some top secrets for holding together sport, life, and love, I think I'll talk about sport within the family...

A really good friend wrote yesterday all about her struggle with Ironman distance and her husband.  Oh, so familiar, I too have been there-the other man!  Bet some of you tri-moms can relate... the hubby complains about the lack of groceries in the house, how you wake up and skip morning snuggles for long rides, and well you skip other things too, thanks to long ride exhastion.  Of course you are too pooped to cook proper meals, you have a ton of male training partners, you talk about times and paces rather than lunch money and vacations.  Wait, your family vacation is maybe your race destignation?  Am I right?  The list goes on, this was some-most-part of her list...

I responded like this, listen in if you find yourself knee deep in the tangle of a man and the Ironman...

First, Ironman is not the problem. Sport is not the problem.  SPORT IS GOOD for families (I'll leave it at that).  An Ironman, any big goal really, is so much better shared.  It is so easy to make it through rough patches on a journey when you have support.  That said, its simply a must to invest time, not just "hi honey i'm home", but real time with the ones you want at the finish line, the side lines, the start lines with you. According to like 92% of coaches, most athletes are over trained.  Hmmm, that pretty much tells me that you CAN find time to grab groceries.  My suggestion was to cut that super long ride by 30 minutes, grab some food, and put it in the fridge.

As for the tired, really tired, too tired...
You know how you manage to get your overly tired butt up for 5am workouts?  Well, just maybe you have to schedule in your partner too.  Of course don't let them see where you write on the Training Peaks or wherever you log your miles, "Spend an hour with the hubby", yeah dont let them see that, but actually plan on it then do it the way you make all those other workouts.  And dinners, since the invention of the slow cooker like 100 years ago, dinner can happen every evening.  Slow cookers can take as quick as 5 minutes to fill, leave them all day while you are at work and during trainings, then come home and eat.  There are even cool cook books with just slow cooker recipes that are prepped in 10 minutes, sit all day, ready to eat when you are.

As for the vacations, I get that. Travel is so expensive, it makes sense to make your Ironman Brasil a family vacation rather than 2 flights all over the world.  What does not make sense is your poor family stuck in a hotel so you can avoid being on your feet, out of the sun, resting.  BORING for the family.  In this case, major compromise coming into action.  Arrive to the race later in the week (yes, give up precious prerace acclimation) and stay longer after the race.  Your legs will thank you anyways for not jumping instantly on a plane and spending the time sight seeing.  If by chance you land a bad race though, dont spend the vacation sulking on it....ENJOY the family.

These lessons and SO MANY more I have learned and continue to learn.  We all continue to find ways to harmonize our sport with our family life.  It's best to just keep remembering that at the end of the day the bike doesnt really love you back...

Good luck tri-moms, we can do this!  AND remember, sport is not the problem, it's good for us...we just have to embrace it in a way our families are part, a BIG part, of it...

Bree




5 Comments:

Blogger Lucy Francis said...

How I can relate to this! My poor husband defenitely doesn't get the attention he needs from me, specially in the "cuddle up" department. I've just read this post out loud to him :-)

Specially as we're still stuck in a hotel post race. I'm still trying to find the perfect balance regarding the travel and agree with you that before the race, we end up spending too much time in the hotel resting or too anxious.
Glad to know I'm not alone.

PS:I wonder if tri-dads face the same problems?....

May 22, 2012 at 2:34 AM

 
Blogger kakes773 said...

Thanks so much for this post, Bree! These are essentials for any athlete, in any sport, married or not. Good relationships are a key to happiness :-)

May 22, 2012 at 4:32 AM

 
Blogger SkirtChaser said...

Awesome Bree. makes me realize how lucky of a man I really am having a wife that is out there training her ass off just as hard as me, and we may not have the cleanest house of our friends, but we enjoy sharing our training, and racing, even if most of the time we aren't actually running side by side or biking together we are out there doing it at the same time and both fully understand what the other is going through. I think Ironman has actually brought us even closer together than we would be without it. Be safe out there!!!

May 22, 2012 at 10:47 AM

 
Blogger ONEHOURIRONMAN said...

Training? What is that? (see my finish from IMFL 70.3 to understand). But you are correct about Joe Average Ironman. They train too much and so many become one and done or two and done due to the strains on the family. Therefore the purpose of my book "OneHourIronmen" in which I practice the opposite extreme.

I did the week before a race as family vacation... you are correct in your suggestion in taking the week after. Definitely a better choice.

Good stuff.... Cheers!

May 22, 2012 at 2:08 PM

 
Blogger Christy said...

Great post! Definitely have to have a balance. And I agree that there are so many of my friends out there who do over train. Sometimes we have to spread our passion about instead of only thinking of the sport. I agree that the sport is good for us and our families. We just have to make sure they are a part of it and have understanding for their feelings especially when you are out for a 6 hour ride on Sunday morning!

May 23, 2012 at 3:22 AM

 

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